As much as we avoid the "F" word in our society, I'm about it to use it now. I am a FEMINIST, and proud to be one. There I said it!!!!
Recently a national debate has sparked up after an unfortunate incident at a reputed hospital in Karachi. And then the self realization struck to me. My views and opinions are Feminist. If being a sane and sensible feminine voice in the otherwise oppressive society means to be a feminist then so be it.
Victim shaming and blaming has always been easy in our country. Harassment is a daily routine through which many many girls go through on a daily basis. So much so that it has been normalized to such an extent that even the fine line between right and wrong has been crossed. And males take it upon as their right to harass the females outside. The unfriendly and meaningful stares, the pertinent ogling, the seemingly accidental jabs and nudges in a public transport. These are the problems our society is infested with. One can't even walk through a public place without being catcalled or whistled at. No discrimination whether you are old or young, rich or poor, hijabi or not, dressed all decked up or looking like a zombie. You just have to be a female on two legs and the men in our society will harass you as their own birth right.
With the rising popularity of social media on the internet, the harassment has also "Technologized". The unnecessary Friendship requests and messages on profiles has been taken as a norm in our society. The alarming factor is that these things are so normal that no one is ready to accept the fact that IT IS WRONG.
People aren't even aware of the fact that what counts as harassment. According to the legal dictionary
http://legal-dictionary.thefreedictionary.com/harassment
Harassment
(either harris-meant or huh-rass-meant) n. the act of systematic and/or continued unwanted and annoying actions of one party or a group, including threats and demands. The purposes may vary, including racial prejudice, personal malice, an attempt to force someone to quit a job or grant sexual favors, apply illegal pressure to collect a bill, or merely gain sadistic pleasure from making someone fearful or anxious. Such activities may be the basis for a lawsuit if due to discrimination based on race or sex, a violation on the statutory limitations on collection agencies, involve revenge by an ex-spouse, or be shown to be a form of blackmail ("I'll stop bothering you, if you'll go to bed with me"). The victim may file a petition for a "stay away" (restraining) order, intended to prevent contact by the offensive party. A systematic pattern of harassment by an employee against another worker may subject the employer to a lawsuit for failure to protect the worker.
According to this legal definition any repeated annoying behavior counts as harassment.
Requests from complete strangers can still be ignored easily, but if its coming from a Doctor, then the case gets complicated. As he already knows the personal details of his patients, its breach of privacy and medical trust that a patient puts on a doctor. As it is the patient is already vulnerable in such a situation.
There are ethical laws of a doctor and patient relation to be followed by all professionals. But sadly they are hardly ever taught in our medical schools. So even if there was a law the doctor would have been unaware of it. And since this culture of sending random requests is a norm he wouldn't have given it a second thought. Not even thinking about his own reputation.
But the feminist sensibility of my mind was shaken to see the people blaming and shaming the victim. Even the women embarrassing themselves by saying its not a big deal, just delete the request. As long as this mentality strives in our society it will be impossible to have a secure and free environment for our female population.
And as a feminist its a long road ahead...but there is still light at the end of a tunnel and a silver lining to every cloud. Till then heads up! And Kudos to all those who are still fighting for the cause.
Recently a national debate has sparked up after an unfortunate incident at a reputed hospital in Karachi. And then the self realization struck to me. My views and opinions are Feminist. If being a sane and sensible feminine voice in the otherwise oppressive society means to be a feminist then so be it.
Victim shaming and blaming has always been easy in our country. Harassment is a daily routine through which many many girls go through on a daily basis. So much so that it has been normalized to such an extent that even the fine line between right and wrong has been crossed. And males take it upon as their right to harass the females outside. The unfriendly and meaningful stares, the pertinent ogling, the seemingly accidental jabs and nudges in a public transport. These are the problems our society is infested with. One can't even walk through a public place without being catcalled or whistled at. No discrimination whether you are old or young, rich or poor, hijabi or not, dressed all decked up or looking like a zombie. You just have to be a female on two legs and the men in our society will harass you as their own birth right.
With the rising popularity of social media on the internet, the harassment has also "Technologized". The unnecessary Friendship requests and messages on profiles has been taken as a norm in our society. The alarming factor is that these things are so normal that no one is ready to accept the fact that IT IS WRONG.
People aren't even aware of the fact that what counts as harassment. According to the legal dictionary
http://legal-dictionary.thefreedictionary.com/harassment
Harassment
(either harris-meant or huh-rass-meant) n. the act of systematic and/or continued unwanted and annoying actions of one party or a group, including threats and demands. The purposes may vary, including racial prejudice, personal malice, an attempt to force someone to quit a job or grant sexual favors, apply illegal pressure to collect a bill, or merely gain sadistic pleasure from making someone fearful or anxious. Such activities may be the basis for a lawsuit if due to discrimination based on race or sex, a violation on the statutory limitations on collection agencies, involve revenge by an ex-spouse, or be shown to be a form of blackmail ("I'll stop bothering you, if you'll go to bed with me"). The victim may file a petition for a "stay away" (restraining) order, intended to prevent contact by the offensive party. A systematic pattern of harassment by an employee against another worker may subject the employer to a lawsuit for failure to protect the worker.
According to this legal definition any repeated annoying behavior counts as harassment.
Requests from complete strangers can still be ignored easily, but if its coming from a Doctor, then the case gets complicated. As he already knows the personal details of his patients, its breach of privacy and medical trust that a patient puts on a doctor. As it is the patient is already vulnerable in such a situation.
There are ethical laws of a doctor and patient relation to be followed by all professionals. But sadly they are hardly ever taught in our medical schools. So even if there was a law the doctor would have been unaware of it. And since this culture of sending random requests is a norm he wouldn't have given it a second thought. Not even thinking about his own reputation.
But the feminist sensibility of my mind was shaken to see the people blaming and shaming the victim. Even the women embarrassing themselves by saying its not a big deal, just delete the request. As long as this mentality strives in our society it will be impossible to have a secure and free environment for our female population.
And as a feminist its a long road ahead...but there is still light at the end of a tunnel and a silver lining to every cloud. Till then heads up! And Kudos to all those who are still fighting for the cause.